Some people have what is called a “resting face”. I happen to be one of those people & boy, do I get quite a bit of shit for it. “You should smile more”, “you have such a beautiful smile, you should show it more often” & my all-time favorite, “you have no reason to frown.” To be blunt, you have no idea what is happening in someone’s life.
You have no idea what someone has been through, & it could just be as simple as some people’s face just sits that way. Remember that anyone can fake a smile, just like smiling does not equal happiness. Everyone has shitty days & a variety of reactions to them. Smiling does not solve a problem, & it is okay to vent. It’s also okay to be upset for a while until you can sort yourself out.
Don’t let someone dictate how you should feel or what you should do with your facial expressions just because they are uncomfortable with your lack of cheerfulness. Not everyone is an extroverted, happy-go lucky person. I, myself, am a low energy introvert. I naturally look uninterested & pissed off, it makes people uneasy, but it’s not my job to constantly make sure others are comfortable.
To feel pleasant in your own skin is a gift. If that consists of looking angry all the time or just having a facial expression that makes those around you confused or feel the need to bring it to your attention (as if you don’t know what your own face looks like), then so be it. I remind people that despite looking upset, I feel pretty damn good while trying to handle this adulting crap just like everyone else.
So, if you see someone that almost always looks upset or bored, leave them be. It’s just their face. I promise.
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